This time of year reminds me of the summer/fall of 2004. I was 18 and the last to move out of house, off the farm, and into the big city of Saskatoon for post-secondary education. At the time it was an exciting adventure to be living on my own, making my own TERRIBLE meals, doing things on my schedule, and generally experiencing a freedom not felt before!
Of course, it was not easy at first. Being away from family, the pressures of “adulting,” and the realization that it’s not cheap being on one’s own (who knew food would be so expensive)! All I can say is thankgoodness for the 49 cent packages of noodles. However, after a month or two one tends to slide into the next phase of life quite easily and it becomes a ride of ups and downs, wins and losses.
It can be a whole lot different for parents, especially mom’s, who have to say goodbye to their kids as they head off for work or university and the sudden possibility of empty nest syndrome starts to become reality. Some parents tend to act excited that they got the house to themselves again after many years, sizing up the basement or a bedroom to be converted into a wicked den or hobby room. Others simply can’t stand being the only ones in the house.
According to the Mayo Clinic, those dealing with empty nest syndrome should obviously stay in touch with the kids, accept the timing of moving out, stay positive, and in tough times, lean on other family members or friends to share those feelings.
Either way, this will be an exciting and emotional time for everybody. The big wide world can be a scary place if you let it be, but it can also be a wonderful place, brimming with opportunity, development, and leadership in all facets of life. The best is yet to come for kids and for parents, it’s just about getting past those first few weeks!